Ladies, if you want to have a successful dating life, certain phrases should never come out of your glossy lips. Here they are:
1.WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You’ll see him when you see him. If he wantsto see you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time foranyone that doesn’t have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one answer to this question:Because he didn’t want to!!! What you’re really asking is, “Why didn’tyou want to call me?” Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, butyou shouldn’t be sitting around wondering why. You should be out datinglots of different guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be soquick to put all your eggs into one basket, because if they break, it’sa big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU? If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d tellyou. What you’re really asking is, “Where you with another female thatyou like better than me?” Your insecurity is showing, my dear. Ifanything, he should be wondering where you were.
4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST) - You’re saying it in the hopes that he’ll say itback, but what if he doesn’t? You’ll be devastated and probably feelfoolish. Saying “I love you” is not going to speed things up if he’snot ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the first tosay it when he’s ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER? As long as he’s not sleeping with her now,who cares? The past is gone. Don’t torture yourself (and him) withthese thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. I’M PREGNANT. In 2005, with all the birth control choices available,there is no excuse for becoming pregnant, unless you want to be. Youshould be using something and he should use a condom, every time.
7. WHERE IS THIS GOING? Nowhere fast if that’s your attitude. Guys wantsomeone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s constantly worryingabout the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it’sgoing. If it’s going somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’llknow it too.
8. WE NEED TO TALK. This is the equivalent of, “Go to the principal’soffice”. Guys know it’s not going to be a fun conversation, so they’realready on the defense. If you need to discuss something, just casuallybring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to talk to himwhen he’s tired, stressed or trying to watch tv!
9. I HATE YOU! Even if you do, it’s totally uncalled for and un-ladylike. If there’s an issue, be mature enough to discuss it when you’recalm. If he’s breaking up with you, reacting with anger may make youfeel better temporarily, but it’s best to remain calm and act unfazed.He’ll wonder why you’re so cool about it and that may make him re-thinkhis decision. Always be pleasant during a break up. Do you want to beknown as the girl that goes psycho if someone breaks up with her?? Ididn’t think so.
10. I DON’T TRUST YOU. What you’re actually saying is, “You need tostep up your game, because I can see you’re up to something.” If he isup to something, he’ll just become even sneakier. Better to think smartand act dumb-it’ll be easier to get the evidence you need to confirmyour suspicions.
Lucia is a dating and relationship expert, author, lecturer and host of the TV Show "The Art of Love".
With over 20 years experience on the relationship market, Lucia hasdated men of all nationalities in six cities, four countries and twocontinents. Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate todispense relationship advice – after all, in almost every datingdilemma she has been there, done that and lived to tell about it.
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